Shooting it Straight: Fire Signs/May 13-17

Love is a many splintered (excuse me, splendored) thing. It all depends on whose side of the story you buy into. Here’s a heads-up on the challenge or obstacle you’re likely to face in your love relationship this week (problem) and what’s at the root of it (action). The advice is irreverent, a bit cheeky, unfiltered and admittedly brazen. The message is putting either you or your partner on notice. You know who you are! If you’re offended by the truth or strong language–stop here.


All work and no play makes for a workaholic and, in turn, a very dull partner. Is one of you putting in too many hours at the office? A heavy financial burden or all-out efforts at climbing the ladder of success can be at the root of your problems. Either of you may be taking on unnecessary obligations or failing to recognize an imbalance in the distribution of responsibilities between you. Perhaps it’s time to lighten the load and open more space for socializing and for each other. You may not realize what a rut you’ve fallen into but breaking out of your routine to create change can prove helpful. If your partner makes a constructive suggestion, be open to it. However, put aside the constant nagging, criticism or anal behavior. In other words, don’t sweat the small stuff.

And what is it that either of you may need to know but don’t really want to hear?

Your friends have forgotten what you look like. Get out and play.


As difficult as it may be, you always have a choice. This is crunch time and you’ve reached a crossroad. Issues may center around travel plans or impulsive decisions that don’t consider the partner’s feelings. As a result, there’s a twist in the road that could bring you into conflict. You may be reviewing the finer points of your relationship and all manner of unhealthy behaviors–disagreements, inconsistencies, fear of commitment, infidelity and hurt feelings. Communication is a problem area when words are used as an instrument of battle. Somebody just has to have the last word and arguments can quickly turn ugly. One of you feels that you’re right. Always. Period. On the other hand, you may be stymied from over-analyzing a situation to the point of dysfunction. Give it a rest–not everything is worth fighting over.

And what is it that either of you may need to know but don’t really want to hear?

The card is the Lovers–be one. Make it better by spending some quality time with your partner.


Got some heavy decisions that you’re struggling to make? Sitting on the fence is not a decision (or at least, not a good one). That means getting clear and not sending out mixed signals. Besides, one of you is probably taking an issue way too seriously. Maybe concerns like career, relocating, or pressing obligations are currently impacting the relationship, but it’s time to handle things more effectively. Your partner (or vice versa) is acutely aware when you’re just going through the motions without putting any real passion behind the actions. It could be that one of you is clumsy at expressing feelings because of a fear of intimacy. But when things get intense, it doesn’t mean get nasty. You don’t win the game by racking up intellectual points. Instead, use that higher mind you’re noted for to cut through the BS of a circumstance and cut out the drama–inaccurate perceptions, accusations, suspicion, revenge, or selfishness. If you don’t have the answers, for Christ’s sake, find someone who does.

And what is it that either of you may need to know but don’t really want to hear?

You’re giving way too many f*&#s! Give zero.

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