Shooting it Straight: Air Signs/May 13-17

Love is a many splintered (excuse me, splendored) thing. It all depends on whose side of the story you buy into. Here’s a heads-up on the challenge or obstacle you’re likely to face in your love relationship this week (problem) and what’s at the root of it (action). The advice is irreverent, a bit cheeky, unfiltered and admittedly brazen. The message is putting either you or your partner on notice. You know who you are! If you’re offended by the truth or strong language–stop here.


There are some real control issues to contend with here–mine vs. yours. One of you may find it necessary to protect yourself from the zingers that come flying out of the mouth of your supposed beloved. Even when you try not to rock the boat, it could still take on water. One of you will learn that cocky does not equal confidence and a poor gamble with words or deeds can be a losing proposition. Questions of commitment or power struggles over property or emotions can block love. Are you the one who’s holding out? It’s time to own up to personal responsibility instead of trying to take charge, control, or blame your partner. Whatever either of you are holding on to for dear life (beliefs, possessions, feelings), what’s it worth to you? Is it paying off or are you paying out?

And what is it that either of you may need to know but don’t really want to hear?

Want it to be different? Change yourself.


Anything cluttering your life needs to be released, including controlling attitudes. Let it die–the temptation to stay stuck on the negativity of the past, that is. Don’t keep using what went wrong as an excuse to not get it right. Either you or your partner may play the “pick up the marbles and go home” game. If you don’t actually want to talk out your differences, how do you expect to move forward? Is this about money? It’s fine to be practical, but that doesn’t mean cheap is the answer. Money isn’t everything and certainly not worth sacrificing love. If you want to establish something of value, you’re going to have to make some big changes–personally, emotionally, physically, materially, psychologically–you get the picture. Reinvent yourself–you’re a survivor.

And what is it that either of you may need to know but don’t really want to hear?

Work it out by working out. Make a plan to grow old together, just not with your old relationship.


Prefer being single or is standing alone the problem? Self-reliance or being taken care of? Sure, you could do it by yourself, but why struggle? Are you at odds with a partner about how to either create the leisurely life you both envision or having more time for your own personal interests? Are there too many demands or expectations between you? One of you may be too self-contained, inaccessible or unavailable. Solving problems related to wealth, employment, status, or property requires teamwork not just your two cents. It’s a jungle out there–why compete with each other? In fact, one of you is making a situation way more difficult than necessary. You know–one of you says black and the other says white but you both know it has nothing at all to do with color. The inner battle is where the action is, especially if you’ve made some choices for the wrong reasons. There are lots of questions under consideration but until you resolve matters with self, you can’t make peace with a partner. In the meantime, just get on with your life. It’s not worth getting bogged down with the pettiness coming at you.

And what is it that either of you may need to know but don’t really want to hear?

Stressed? Annoyed? Take better care of yourself and don’t let it get next to you.

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