Shooting it Straight: Earth Signs/May 13-17

Love is a many splintered (excuse me, splendored) thing. It all depends on whose side of the story you buy into. Here’s a heads-up on the challenge or obstacle you’re likely to face in your love relationship this week (problem) and what’s at the root of it (action). The advice is irreverent, a bit cheeky, unfiltered and admittedly brazen. The message is putting either you or your partner on notice. You know who you are! If you’re offended by the truth or strong language–stop here.


You were so excited and then…it fizzled out. You lost that lovin’ feelin.’ The thrill is gone. Something promised wasn’t delivered and now there’s a sense of pessimism, powerlessness, or futility. You or your partner may even be freaking out at this point. Something that either of you wanted could have fallen flat (don’t go there). In retrospect, you may realize that this endeavor was doomed for failure from the start, and yet, one of you remained true to course in spite of signs that pointed otherwise. Change arrives as a crisis–perhaps due to pressures outside of your relationship. Walk away from the gossip, rumors, or accusations–it doesn’t serve to respond. Now the price for a poor choice will have to include greater self-reliance. As a result, the surprising response to a situation may be to suddenly end a relationship because of unfulfilled expectations.

And what is it that either of you may need to know but don’t really want to hear?

It’s not personal. You know it’s not always about you, right?


This was meant to be a happy occasion, but one of you is all hot and bothered. Who’s the source of this frustration–a party-pooper acting as Negative Nancy or Debbie Downer? Is romance or marriage harder than you thought? Did moving in together turn out to be more difficult than anticipated? Are the children getting on your last nerve? Somebody needs to check their ego before they burn out or get burned. This relationship is riddled with fault-finding and it seems that no matter what one of you does, the other one is never satisfied. When either of you push the partner to do what you want, the way you want, when you want, it makes him/her all the more resistant to your temperamental demands. But temper tantrums are for children. Learn to create win-win situations and happily-ever-afters.

And what is it that either of you may need to know but don’t really want to hear?

Go ahead and put it out there. Just f#%@n say it so you can stop killing the vibe.


Where are you pushing boundaries or buttons? Stop procrastinating. It’s time to talk, no holds barred. A misjudgment somewhere along the way means that the test-drive hasn’t gone quite as planned. As a result, things are going downhill or nowhere fast. You understand that sometimes situations get out of hand and people go too far. But at this point, what appears to be a run of bad luck has left you wondering whether you’re compatible with a partner due to all the differences. Money, travel, change, or the future could be the issue–it really doesn’t matter–you’ll have to strike a deal between you and compromise. You don’t have to agree on everything, but you do have to recognize the deal-breakers. If things don’t work out as planned, consider it a gift of grace. Luck has nothing to do with it–you played a major role in present circumstances. The truth is that you’ve been resistant to positive change. Stop making excuses to stay in a bad situation. It’s time to heal–yourself, a relationship, or a situation.

And what is it that either of you may need to know but don’t really want to hear?

People are messy. You have to love them anyway.

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