Shooting it Straight – Earth Signs/June 17-21

Here’s a heads-up on the challenge or obstacle you’re likely to face in your love relationship this week (problem) and what’s at the root of it (action). The advice is irreverent, a bit cheeky, unfiltered and admittedly brazen. The message is putting either you or your partner on notice. You know who you are! If you’re offended by the truth or strong language–stop here.


Is your life echoing themes from Tolstoy’s War and Peace? This week one of you may be a woman/man of few words and that could be precisely what you both prefer. The power lies more in what is not being said (to the other one’s face), although the criticism is palpably felt. You’re starting to notice the disconnect between presentation and package and realizing the box wrapped in ribbons wasn’t necessarily a gift. Now, someone is distinctly aware of the partner turning their back on the relationship to focus on whatever is deemed to be more pressing. Perhaps a difficulty, hardship, or betrayal causes you to retreat for some much needed space to address your own physical or mental well-being. However, there’s also some spiteful manipulation behind this withdrawal as well. The emphasis on retaliation by exercising personal independence could block the possibility for real peace. Bitter hostility between you is probably based on emotional losses that have been difficult to recover from. As a result, either of you could make a landmark decision to stand up for yourself; the judgment being that if you can’t be equal, you’ll need to be separate.

And what is it that either of you may need to know but don’t really want to hear?

If you build the wall, who’s gonna pay for it?


Well, you certainly didn’t expect this! Is that an effort at real compromise or are you just testing the waters? You do realize that if you want to get it just right, some things can’t be rushed? You’ve been shaken, but not stirred–to do anything, that is. But you can’t procrastinate any longer, because it is time for some healing conversations. You know, the kind of dialogue where you both get to say your piece. Either of you may need to speak up or speak out about an issue where there’s been inappropriate behavior, an imbalance, or a conflict of interest. Bad habits–unfaithfulness, obsession, or addiction–are spinning out of control and throwing this connection off-kilter. Someone needs to practice impulse control and greater restraint. You’ll both need to consider whether you’re compatible or if this relationship has become just a really bad excuse for not making the most of yourself. The key is to compromise without being compromised. Try to meet in the middle, but don’t go too far.

And what is it that either of you may need to know but don’t really want to hear?

Give ’em the hand; but a finger if necessary.


Is this foolhardy? Perhaps–but one of you is willing to take a chance anyway. There are commitment issues at stake and things are moving in a new direction that may feel unsettling…or exciting–it all depends. Should I stay or should I go? Both options present a challenge and the tension of trying to minimize the risk factor is starting to take a physical toll. Could the worry be that one of you won’t be needed now that the other has gained the confidence to step out there? Perhaps you’re the one ready to meet someone different or at least see a difference in your partner. Somebody’s through playing the fool–chronic apologies don’t cut it, especially when the only interest the partner has is with self. The inclination is to do something way out of the comfort zone or to seek a way out. It’s a new day, it’s a new dawn–but are you feelin’ good?

And what is it that either of you may need to know but don’t really want to hear?

Is this a date or just dated?

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